You Get What You Ask For (Not What You Deserve)

Eddie Rizvi

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July 23, 2026

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Right now there are people in your organization less qualified than you, doing less work — and getting paid more, promoted faster, and handed more opportunities. It’s not luck and it’s not politics. It’s one habit most people never build: asking, explicitly, for what they want.

I learned this the hard way — the day I came back from vacation to find a colleague with worse numbers promoted over me, and what my manager said when I finally asked why. Here’s how to stop waiting to be noticed and start getting what you actually want.

In this video, I cover:

  • Why deserving something and getting something are completely different things
  • The real shift: being explicit instead of assuming people can read your effort
  • Why silence is a decision — and what it quietly costs you
  • How to treat a “no” as information, not a verdict
  • The story behind “He was knocking on my door. You weren’t.”

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